Quantum Love

I confess that I am always a little cautious when a book has 'quantum' in the title as there is so much hype around the use of this term and here we not only have quantum love but also 'quantum sex.' Strictly speaking I think the term 'vibrational' would have been more accurate, but this book is a very good combination of theory and practice that can help a lot of people improve the quality of the emotional and physical relationships. The physical principles of energy, coherence, frequency and entrainment are critical variables, and it is interesting how the author uses the work of David Hawkins with his calibration of emotions in creating her 'Quantum Love map' where we can work things out personally. Her characterisation of three states of consciousness is very useful: 'to me' (the victim/ego), 'by me' (co-creator) and 'through me' when we are in what she calls our home frequency at a higher level of operation. Using the exercises and questionnaires, readers can place themselves on this frequency band, but varying between when they are at their worst and at their best. As we know from experience, each relationship creates its own field or resonance, which Rupert Sheldrake would call morphic.

The author draws not only on her own experience but also on that of many others in her extensive discussion of relationship issues. She also outlines four commitments in terms of taking responsibility for the energy we bring into a relationship, clarifying what we want out of love, taking responsibility for the energy of our body and committing to moving on when we are stuck. Throughout, it is important for us to be in touch with our feelings and intuition, realising that our partners are great teachers and that we can change the dynamics of the relationship by changing ourselves; in this respect, appreciation can be especially important, but we also need to have an accurate knowledge of the needs of our partner. There is plenty of good advice on mental health, nutrition and lifestyle. The final main chapter draws on Tantra and Taoism to provide an overview of practices that will take sexual relationships to another level of intimate communion. Then the appendix provides detailed questionnaires and further exercises. It is a life enhancing and highly informative book.